Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Breastfeeding in public

I got this link on my Facebook newsfeed. This woman heard about a breastfeeding protest and took a couple pictures to post on a protest group. One is her outside of Targets breastfeeding her baby and the other in inside with her baby in the cart (the baby is maybe 1 or 1.5 years and so sits alone fine in that cart) and she is doing a silly pose with one foot kicked back while her baby is at the boob.


She got a lot of negative comments. Most of them positive and negative were even coming from breastfeeding moms! I can't believe it! If women are not given their rights to breastfeed in public, it seems to me like the envelope needs to be pushed a little. Boobs are made for feeding!!!! People need to accept that and let boobs do what they were meant to do, anywhere that they happen to find a hungry baby!

I think we need more women like this one, pushing what people feel comfortable with so that eventually the general population will not be as uncomfortable with breastfeeding and any woman, even the shyest and most modest will feel fine breastfeeding their baby in public.

To the ones who cared to compare breastfeeding in public to urinating in isle 3 or taking a dump in the electronics department, you are seriously fucked up and I wouldn't even go beyond saying that - you are so far past reason.

To my readers: I'm very interested and curious about how breastfeeding in public is perceived where you live. Where are you from and how do you and others near you feel about breastfeeding in public?

12 Comentários:

june seghni said...

In the UK it isn't too bad, but we still have some issues..a mother in my city was upset by some people in a cafe, and it prompted her to stage a protest..which made the tv news..

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-sussex-16194507

Mona Z said...

It totally a non issue here in Egypt but always with a cover.

Amber said...

Down in Small Town(tm) Florida here. I have never, to my recollection, seen a woman breastfeed in public or otherwise. So I'm thinking that it's viewed as something done in private around here!

That being said, personally I think if you want to breastfeed then go for it. It'd probably be best if you threw a blanket or something over your chest if you're doing it in public because (thinking of it from my own perspective) do you really want pervs ogling you while you feed your child?

jana z. said...

as long as its kept private, i dont think anyone around here cares. by private i simply mean cover yourself.

NeverEver said...

If i had a breastfed child i would feed them wherever I am, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna pop out my boob for all and sundry to see...

thats what burp towels and chest-covering hijabs are for :-P

I wouldn't mind seeing women breastfeeding in public but i for sure don't want to see anybody's boobies or have my husband/brother/dad/cousin/etc seeing breasts everywhere. As a muslim, this is exposing part of the awrah to people who don't have the right to see it. that is too far in my opinion. I'm not sure if I represent the majority in my area though.

Um Zakarya said...

I also believe that breastfeeding in public is perfectly fine as long as you keep your boobs covered.Modesty at all times is an important part of Islam, a woman can't display her boobs to everyone and anyone, even while breastfeeding.

Stacy aka Fahiima said...

I tried to cover with my daughter but she would scream bloody murder if I tried to keep her face covered while nursing. My compromise was to pull my shirt down and use my hand to cover whatever of my breast that was not blocked by her face. Some babies will simply not nurse with a cover over their heads. It was hard for me to deal with this at first because of the modesty issue, but I eventually realized that my compromise was the only way we would both come out of it with our sanity intact.

Candice said...

june: I'm glad it's not too bad overall. I'm sure this type of thing has happened here too even though I've never had it happen to me or heard of it.

Mona: That's good. I've seen a woman breastfeeding in public in Egypt and I thought it was great.

Amber: I see women all the time breastfeeding in public. At the mall though most women go to the breastfeeding room or the one in Sears store. The one that belongs to the mall is new and really nice. Comfy chair, nice decor, etc.

I have to say I don't use a cover when I breastfeed. I manage to do it modestly though by normally wearing two layers (tank top or belly band underneath). I have one layer covering my tummy and back and the top layer pulled up so that it still covers the skin on top of my boob. The baby covers the rest and he can still see me or everything around him.
My cousin has a different style and just wears a tube top or shirt with a bigger neck opening and pulls her boob out. She doesn't breastfeed anymore, but when she did she pulled her whole boob out and fed the child. I never saw her do it in a very public space but she did it in her home or mine or the restaurant where at least people could easily come in and see her and I just don't see the big deal.

Jana: Hopefully what I do counts as covering myself, but I definitely never cover my baby...

NeverEver: I've heard more than once of babies not wanting to drink under a blanket (or burp towel or hijab). I never tried with my baby.

UmZakarya: She wasn't Muslim so religion wasn't an issue for her and most Americans are not Muslim. I figure they are so open about seeing cleavage, why not the equivalent of cleavage but with the nipple covered with a baby face instead of a piece of clothes? It makes no sense to me at all.

Stacy: I do a version of what you do but I just wear two layers so that a shirt can cover the top part of my boob. It's winter anyway! My daughter was a summer baby but I also used the two layer approach.

plaingrl said...

I have amish and mennonite friends and they were cape dresses which totally cover u, so much it is hard to tell they are even breastfeeding! It is a very good idea!
I am all for breastfeeding in public! I mean, that's what breast's are for-feeding! It's the oversexulation in our cultures that make it seem a bad thing! I mean, look at aincent egypt, palestine during Jesus's time, Mecca during Mohammed (I think anyeways!)- it was ok then. It is ok in certain parts of africa, in fact in some places women never wear shirts! If it is ok to eat in public, iot should be ok for babies to eat too! I'd rather see that then some stuff that goes on in public, like very skimpy clothes, men w/o shirts, and couples basically making out right in the open! I think THOSE are wayyy more disgusting!

Um Zakarya said...

I wasn't talking about that woman but about breastfeeding in public in general :)

Coolred38 said...

Interesting how breasts are perfectly fine to bare while aimed at the male gaze..their apparent only target that does not get such outrage as when a mother feeds her baby. In this case the women are still seen as sexual creatures...giving a baby a sexual appendage meant for grown up men to enjoy. People just can't seem to differintiate between the sexual breast and the nonsexual breast. That is their loss and something they need to get over. Babies need their lunch.

Candice said...

Someone at that link actually made a comment that the picture where she's being playful with the baby in the cart as sexual! Some people have issues!

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