Monday, July 25, 2011

No to homophobia, yes to diversity!

I love gays. I simply do. As a group of people, I have very positive feelings towards them. I believe 100% in their right to pursue a relationship with another person of the same sex, in their right to marry that person and in their right to adopt children or have some themselves to raise with their same-sex partner.

With becoming Muslim, I found this a bit of a conflict. I think I probably wrote about it somewhere on my blog and I'm not sure how far I was able to deviate from what I truly feel about homosexuals, but the Muslim beliefs about how haram homosexuality is never "got" me.

I have a No to homophobia, yes to diversity! bracelet that I have been wearing lately. Anyone dare me to wear it to the mosque? I'm not one to start controversy, but some people have to or things don't change, right? And I also believe that homosexuals need to be treated as any other human being by Muslims. If a homosexual identifies as Muslim, then that is that and his or her relationships are between him/her and God. They should be welcomed to freely worship in the same mosque and this difference of belief should not bring them apart when they probably believe a lot of the same things too.

Go see what Becky posted HERE which I loved.

11 Comentários:

Banana Anne said...

One of my major pet peeves regarding my fellow Muslims is their tendency towards extreme homophobia. Just because Islam doesn't support homosexuality doesn't mean that homosexuals aren't deserving of kind treatment. This constant putdown of gays and lesbians and condemnations that they're all going to hell is completely uncalled for and very unIslamic (not to mention that we have no idea who will end up in heaven or hell). ALLAHu Alim, but I think that if the Prophet (saw) were alive today, he probably would not engage in hurling insults or being downright cruel to homosexuals.

Ʋƨɐɠɪ ❤ said...

Assalmualaikum ~


It was just pride here in my province and I have many gay friends so I feel exactly that same as you. I do not feel they should be treated any differently. I know what the Qu'ran says but that's Allah's business. It doesn't change how wonderful any person gay be, gay, bi, whatever. And it doesn't change the fact that I am friends and will continue to be friends with any kind of person : )

You should watch the documentary a Jihad for Love. It's about Gay Muslims.

edibe @ edbdesigns said...

I'm not homophobic. I have a couple gay 'friends' myself. However, with Islam, the Qur'an, you cannot take what you like and what you don't. Being a Muslim requires us to accept it as a whole, because being Muslim means that we believe Allah knows best. Of course this does not mean we do not question to understand why and how etc...

There are so many things I personally find hard to practice as a Muslim and to stay away from, but just because I cannot do it (for example, I cannot hate gay people) should not mean that any other Muslim should feel the same way, because the ruling on homosexuality is very very very clear in the Qur'an.

This is the first time I'm commenting on your blog I believe, but I have been following for quite a while now... I quite enjoy your blog, thank you for sharing :)

Becky said...

First off, thank you for this post Candice, and for linking to mine :) I'm sure you already know I'm in agreement with what you wrote. I just have one short comment for edibe, you wrote:

"...but just because I cannot do it (for example, I cannot hate gay people) should not mean that any other Muslim should feel the same way..."

Just to check if I'm misunderstanding you, but the way I read it, you say it's okay for Muslims to hate gay people? That's not at all how I understand the Qur'an and it's overall message. Could you please expand on that?

Candice said...

Anne: I don't think he would either.

Usegi: Thanks for commenting on my blog and allowing me to discover your's! :D Very happy to meet you.

I will try to find this documentary you recommended.

Edibe: I don't see me loving gays as something bad and never will. You shouldn't see your inability to feel hate for them as something bad either... I think your inner truth gauge is speaking louder to you than the Muslims who tell you you can't accept gays and I'm happy for that.

edibe @ edbdesigns said...

hey Becky, no I'm sorry, that's not what I meant at all.. I just meant that no matter how ugly it is, hatred exists and will continue to exist. Unfortunately...

there is something else that I wanted to include in my previous comment and missed... just as there are homophobics amongst muslims and non-muslims, there are gay people who hate muslims too... in my previous post i noted I too have had gay 'friends'. I cannot really say they were my friends, more like acquaintances.. there is a barrier between 'both sides' and it is not very easy to overcome...

i do hope that one day the world can be a friendlier place, despite race, religion, nationality, and personal preferences.

i'm sorry it was a very long response, but thank u for giving me the opportunity to expand, as i am really not an advocate of hatred, no matter what the reason... trying to understand and accept has always worked better for me :)


Becky said...


Happy to see and read your response, and don't worry about the length!

I have to say I'm very happy I misunderstood/misinterpreted you :)

I share your hope that one day the world will be more accomodating of people regardless of race, religion, nationality, sexual preferences etc.

Abid said...

I am a muslim, I pray 5 times a day, I fast during Ramadan, I give 2.5% of my wealth to charity, I have been on Hajj and I believe Allah is the one true God.
I also have Gay friends.
Islam condemns Homosexuality practices, Islam also condemns fornication, adultery and sodomy between same and different sexes.
How do I reconcile the two?
I live in a western society, where secular rule takes presedence, I choose to live in this society, within this society people will commit the above acts.
I take people at their face value, I haven't had a gay person ever attack or offend me personally, I find homosexual men to be generally well educated, diligent and hard working, Islam means Peace so I don't feel the need to attack unless I am being attacked.
In a way whilst in this society, I adopt a live and let live attitude.
Where I draw the line is if a Gay person wants to become a muslim and continue practicing homosexual acts. The religion of Islam clearly states Homosexual acts are forbidden, as is adultery, fornication if a person embraces Islam, he/she must embrace the guidance of Islam which includes the above prohibitions, otherwise it makes no sense to submit yourself to something and immediately deny the laws prescribed to you.
If I choose to become a muslim, which means accepting the Quran as the word of God, then act against the words of God, then surely that can't make sense, aren't I saying "I believe and follow, but on this topic, God, I think you are wrong", isn't that a contradiction in my belief?
Do I believe homosexuals are harmful to society, I struggle with this, since the gay friends I have are really nice people, yet Islams condemnation is so powerful and final. My approach is to take each individual as they are, Religion. and sexuality is such an emotive topic, my feeling is that before condeming and hating others it is important to look at yourself and perfect your own flaws. If someone is a practicing homosexual, I am not in a position to condemn them as they have their own set of values and perspective on life which they follow. If that person wants to practice Islam and continue pursuing homosexual acts, then I would feel there is a conflict there, my advice to that person who is gay and wants to embrace Islam, would be that Islam is 50% patience, if you have homosexual urges control them, there is no sin in being Gay, the sin is practicing homosexual acts. Just as I a man who is not married may have urges towards attractive women, but control those urges and show patience, I have not commited a sin in having urges, but the sin would be in acting upon the urge
to commit fornication. In controlling the urge and showing patience there is great reward, which as a muslims, we believe may come in this life or the next.

True Believer said...

Sister, are you Muslim? Do you agree 100% in the commands and decrees of Allah and His Prophet? If you do than this personal feeling about homosexuals is not within the limits of what is allowable in the Deen of Allah. We should love what Allah loves and is allowable and should have animosity towards all things Allah hates and leads us to the hellfire. I don't know how long you have been in the deen or what school of thought you study but to love what Allah hates is not Islamic. I am not here to bash you during the holy month but insha'Allah you will be given the correct guidance and turn away from the people of zina. Have a blessed Ramadhan.

Candice said...

Adib: Thank you for your very balanced and reasonable views. I appreciate that.

I'm not sure I see the Qur'an as the word of God so I guess this part of my beliefs allows me to easily go against something in Islam without much contradiction. The major contradiction is that the belief that the Qur'an is the word of God is seen as something quite essential to even being a Muslim... So there's my issue I guess!

"True Believer": I will never have animosity against people who are homosexual, only for the reason that they are homosexual. I believe in peace 100% and avoid conflict and hate as much as possible. I love the good in everyone, even people who do things that I hate or disagree with so that won't change. I don't actually disagree with homosexuality, but I disagree with pre-marital sexual relations and yet I have friends who do that and I will not have animosity towarsd them just because they do something I disagree with. If anything, that would be against Islam as I understand it.

Fouzia Ghauri said...

I saw a good comment from a Muslim on a forum regarding homosexuality:

"It is really down to the indiviual. Whislt homosexuality is forbidden in all religions, from Judaism to Islam, it really is Allah's right to judge us for our actions. As Muslims, all we can do is offer advice, but we can not dictate the life another person should lead."


Of course, we have to accept that as Muslims, our CREATOR has forbidden us to practice this. In our day and age, it's difficult to accept or understand that.

However, you can find some great tafseer (explanations) of the verses about the verses in the Qur'an and Allah's command regarding homosexuality. Some of the audios or videos out there are extremely easy to understand, they're rational, and they make sense.

Of course, we can't dictate how people should live their life because free-will is the right of every human being.

In Shaa Allah, if we don't understand something or the wisdom behind it, then we can only do our best to seek for the answer and in this day and age, it is easy to do as there are thousands of great scholars that have videos and tapes.

If we don't understand something or the wisdom behind it at this point in life, then.. We must put our trust in Allah. Any command or any rule that Allah has made has been ONLY for our own good, and for our best interests. Allah knows us better than we know ourselves, after all, HE is the one who MADE us. He knows what we know not. After all, He is the All-Knowing, and All-Wise.


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