Tuesday, May 31, 2011

A few things I want to teach Nora - off the top of my head

This is based on situations I've had in the past while.

1) Women can have any job they want even in a male-dominated field, same thing for men in female-dominated fields.

She has a tendancy to talk about things that are broken or being built by saying they will be fixed/built by "des monsieurs" literally "sir's/misters" or generally "men". So I have had to explain to her that even if we often see men working on construction sites or fixing things, that women could do it too! It hasn't really come up to talk to her about men doing a female job but being an educator at the garderie would be a good one I can speak to her about since men there only come in to fix stuff!

2) Even if "it's your's" or "you had it first", you should still share or give up your turn or privilege for another.

I wouldn't push her but I nudger her and encourage her towards generosity when possible. Forcing her would be injustice and so not something I would do.

3) Two men or two women can be a family together. It's different than the norm, but that doesn't make it wrong or any reason to judge or ridicule.

This has only come up once and she was not phased by the images, but I still took the opportunity to tell her it's OK, just different than us with our mommy, daddy, child family.

4) That she is lucky to have everything she has. To be grateful.

I will tell her this when she gets gifts or a person is thoughtful towards her. Also have tried to make her see the positive in a bad situation in a very child way. Being lucky that her booboo was not bigger or bleeding when she scratched herself and lucky that it will heal very soon.

5) Being open to people of different skin colour, culture, religion, language.

This has not been hard - afterall her mom and dad have different skin colour and different languages from each other. I have gotten her dolls of different hair and skin colour and gotten her dolls dressed in ethnic clothing. I allow her to dress as she wishes when she goes out for the most part and don't worry her about if it looks good, it matches, etc. She wears dress-up clothes out and tiaras too when we shop if she wants. Basically, I want her to be able to be open to others as they are, as well as herself as she really is instead of feeling forced to conform or finding others who don't conform weird. These things all tie in a little with being open-minded to other beliefs and styles.

This was just a little taste of things I think about as a parent to a 4 year old. New challenges and opportunities to teach to come!! I can only hope to deal with them well so that my daughter grows up a kind, compassionate, open-minded, loving person. :)

Friday, May 27, 2011

A quote

"True religion is not about possessing the truth. No religion does that. It is rather an invitation into a journey that leads one toward the mystery of God. Idolatry is religion pretending that it has all the answers." Bishop J.S. Spong

How much truth is there to this statement (in your opinion)?

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Baby Names!

Here are my top names to go with sibling Nora Claire. I need you guys to give me your favourite names and favourite spellings (for those with a choice).

Sofia (صفيّة ) - Not interested in Saffiyah


For middle names, it will most likely be Muhammad or Ahmed for a boy. I will let my husband chose what name he wants.

For girls, I have some ideas. Since Claire is my mom's name, we will chose from my husband's side of the family. I don't like Mervat or Nariman, my MIL's names, but I love Hayat, my husband's grand-mother's name. They were close too which makes it more special for him. I simply love the name and meaning. I feel bad that I'm not interested in giving the child my MIL's name when my mom was honoured in this way, but the culture is different and they don't use middle names anyway.

I am thinking of giving this child 2 middle names if it's a girl. It's not conventional and Nora doesn't have two, but they are not used as much here so no one would really notice, and the name I want to add really makes the difference for me.

Middle name idea: Sage Hayat

What do you think?

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Attending a wedding - here is my dress!

This dress does not fit Islamic dress guidelines or practically any of my regular day-to-day guidelines, but I just love it! :) I feel all pretty in it and it hides my pregnant tummy in its looks-like-I-gained-weight phase. It actually goes a bit longer on me than this model. I'm 5'9 but she must be at least 6 feet because the under layer is just above my knee and the over layer goes over my knee a bit.

It's so far away from what I would normally wear but it will be fun to be all dressed up fancy and nice for the day.

Friday, May 13, 2011

Enjoying teen books - House of Night series

I must have written sometime ago about how I really enjoyed the Twilight series? Cool blogger Amber gave me the first book and I actually went out and bought the next 3 :) A girl at work is reading another teen vampire series called House of Night and I am totally enjoying it too! For completely different reasons than Twilight though. In Twilight, I liked the love story most of all - I had separated myself from all that stuff with marriage and having a child (all those responsabilities!) and it was my first time in a long while to be all "into" love. With this series, the love story is not very interesting for me, but I am really liking the elements storyline (air, fire, water, earth) and their vampyre spirituality with the Goddess of night.

I feel like a teen again. :) Isn't it nice to read a book that is so easy to ready it practically reads itself? I can't seem to finish books lately... I'm just too tired and can't concentrate well so these are just perfect for a person like me.

Who else is reading them/has read them?

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