Thursday, April 14, 2011

Spouse's Age

It's traditional that the man in a relationship be older than the woman. That's just "how it is". I think that most people consider themselves to be of the same age when they're both in the same year and that age difference really starts when you go over that 1 year difference.

I found it so funny how weird my husband finds it when the woman is older - even by 2 MONTHS! His friend was engaged to a woman 2 months older than he is and he mentioned it more than once on how he could never do that! I really don't get it! What's the big difference in 2 months?! They're both the same age!

What is the age difference in your relationship? Have any of you noticed cultural differences about difference in age and attitude towards it?

15 Comentários:

L.L. said...

We are 10 years apart- He is 10 years older.

Nikki said...

My husband is only 10 months older than me, we were born in different years, but really we're rather close in age. He does seem much older than me, maturity wise, etc. due to his coming to live in the U.S. on his own at the same age I was still finishing up high school. He graduated high school two years before me which I find just crazy since we're so close in age, but a different culture and age system, you know. My sister is 3 years older than her husband, which I know some people find odd. My husband seems to find it a bit more odd than most, though, due to cultural views, I'm sure.

I think age is just a number. If you have similar goals, values, and levels of maturity, then you have a shot whether or not society looks kindly on your union.

My sister is

Zu hu ra said...

My husband is 11 years younger than me. I feel kind of self-conscious about it in the U.S; he doesn't seem to care. People in his family compare us to the Prophet and Khadija.

letterstoanewmuslim said...

It's funny how Muslim men quickly forget the age difference between Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and Khadijah o_O

Mimisha said...

as salamu alaikum
i dont know any society where its really accepted if the woman is older. its always like " she just want a young lover, and hes just after the money, visa,.."
Personally i prefer guys that r older than me. But i dont judge couples where the woman is older.

Unless its that young egyptian guy working in ahotel, whos dating a 45 old foreigner. Well than i cant believe its love.

.::Tuttie::. said...

I am 25 and he is 32 and that was by accident. I didn't actually planned on that. Although I didn't want to marry someone younger than me because I was 21 when I got married.

I also didn't think I would marry someone shorter but I think that is just a personal preference of mine.


The above were just a "wishlist" in reality when I met my husband none of that was actually taken in to account, his character and manliness convinced me. His dashing good lucks didn't hurt him either. :)

Sarah said...

It seems universal that men like younger women and a lot of women go for the older men too. But yeah, 2 months is nothing!

Mona Z said...

That's odd. What about the rasul, alayhe alsalam, He married Khadija when she was 15 years older. I think as long as they are both adults, it shouldn't matter. My husband is 10 years older than me but I don't feel the difference.

Elisa said...

My husband and I are exactly one month minus day apart. My birthday is June 19, 1985 and his birthday is July 18, 1985. I always tell him to listen to me and respect his elders properly! LOL

LK said...

I'm a year and half older than my boyfriend...doesn't seem to make much difference. Its about maturity not age.

Susanne said...

One of the best marriages that I know of are my grandparents and she is nearly 3 years older. They've had a great marriage.

My husband is almost 6 years older than I.

I love the reaction of your husband to the 2 months...haha! :D

Lady of the Ozarks said...

My partner is 15 years older than me. I agree that the age doesn't matter much. He's experienced a lot more of life than I have, but because I haven't there are more things for us to share together as my first time doing something. It means a lot to do something for the first time (try new foods, go to new places, etc) with him. :-)

hijabi said...

My husband is 17 years older. I love it this way. By the way his first wife was 9 years older then him. So he used to had one older wife and now one younger.

Candice said...

So true about prophet Muhammad. Just because of that you'd imagine it's something OK and common in Muslim majority countries!

My husband is 4.5 years older than me and it feels like we're the same age and have the same life experience. Men really do mature slower!

proto said...

My wife is 15 years older than I am. She was a widow with 3 children. We were very good friends through church for about 4 years before I realized that I loved her, and asked for her hand. We are very happy.

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