Monday, July 19, 2010

*Woman's post* Controlling when you get your P

I was thinking about Ramadan and how glad I am that I will be on vacation for the first 2 weeks of it. It's very hard for me to fast with work because of a couple reasons.
1) People not knowing I'm Muslim and that I'm fasting (and having no respect for it)
2) Not feeling well when I'm hungry or thirsty (dizziness and all that)
3) Feeling tired when I interrupt my sleep. (This is obviously the smallest of my problems though)

So I'm glad I will have the 12 first days of Ramadan when I'm not working to help me adjust to fasting and hopefully make it easier on me when I go back to work than it would have been to start at work.

I started thinking about my period though, and having to interrupt my fast when I get it. How much it would suck if I had to get it during those 2 weeks and then have to make up my fast during work days! It's not a big problem because I am on birth control that I often take without stopping, which makes me not have my period, and I definitely plan on not being in my period during those 12 days...

But the question is: How OK is it to have an "artificial" period?! If I stop the birth control, I start bleeding within 1 day, which makes me have the power to give myself my period when I get sick of fasting. Not something I want to do, but it might become tempting, I don't know! I'd make up the days, but I'd be giving myself more power than I should have since I can choose those days...

What do you think?

13 Comentários:

UmmSqueakster said...

Assalamu Alaikum,

Speaking purely from my opinion, but that seems to fall under the category of purposely breaking your fast, in that you're consciously choosing to do something that will cause you not to fast.

Seems like a gray area that is best avoided :)

Candice said...

Thanks for your opinion. You're right, best to be avoided. But in a case like mine, where I "normally" take my birth control for 3 weeks and then just start a new one right away, skipping my period, and then every once in a while allowing myself to have it... I guess I should be OK to stop OR continue at the end of my 3 weeks of birth control since those are two options I normally take on a monthly basis (even if I make that decision based on how well or not well fasting is going)...?

Mona Z said...

Interesting thought. I do the same thing but I stick to a schedule of 2 months of pills, no period, then a month with a period but I never thought of it as artificial, even though I know it's the pill that makes it happen.

Candice said...

Mona: Sorry, "artificial" is not the right word. It's funny that I use this word now when I ranted and ranted (to friends and family) last week because someone in an article called children born from AI "artificial children". Just like they are real children, we have real periods, but they are brought upon by a method that could be called artificial.

The more I think about it, the more I just need to go through the whole of Ramadan without having my period to make sure I avoid making myself have it just to stop fasting for a week. I don't want to fall into that.

LK said...

I would consult with your doctor before messing with your pills. You can get pretty sick from messing with birth control.

Is it an official rule that you cannot fast on your period? Or is it a mercy since most would have problems doing so? I only ask because I know women who have fasted on their periods.

Gardens of Sand said...

Think of the positives, if you do end up getting your period, you can make up the days in the winter when the days are so much shorter!

I would also consult the Dr. I always thought that the frequency of your period when on birth control depends on the type of birth control. Some pills are 3 weeks on, 1 week period. Others are 3 months on, 1 week period, etc. I do not think its ok to change the frequency of the period by oneself.

Aynur said...

I agree with UmmSqueakster. :)

I have an IUD, so I haven't had my period for a while. Last year I didn't have to stop fasting at all, it was the first year I was able to fast every single day along with my hubby. :) I think pills and IUDs, etc... kind of mess up your body's normal cycle though and I wish I didn't have to use it.

Jaz said...

Will you stop after pill 21? If so, all you're doing is doing it the proper way. If you normally run pack to pack to avoid menstruation, and you let yourself have your period in August then you're just having what most other women have every month anyway? I think it's okay because God intended for women to have a break during Ramadan anyway as He gave us periods...

Candice said...

I have the type that you can either insert 3 weeks and remove 1 week, or just insert 3 weeks and insert right away another for another 3 weeks without stopping. I normally put a new one in right away, but every couple months will have my period before starting a new one. It's random and normally out of laziness that month and not wanting to go to the pharmacy right away.

I had my period recently so normally, I'd be a couple months without having it, so I will keep the goal in mind to fast the whole of Ramadan.

Zuhura said...

Interesting post -- this will my first Ramadhan and I hadn't though about the fact that I will have my period at some point in there! I believe that not praying or fasting during one's period are a mercy, not a requirement, so I may continue to fast when I have my period, but I'll see how I feel.

I agree with UmmSqueaker that purposely causing your period in order to avoid fasting would be counter to the purpose of fasting during Ramadhan.

Candice said...

Thanks for your comment. I'm so nervous about Ramadan and so scared of having to fast... But insha'Allah, it will go well and will be a spiritual boost.

x_Elizabeth_x said...

officially, a period on birth control isnt a "true period". This is why if you were to try for a baby they tell you to come off the pill, have a "true period" then start trying.
But its the whole its still a form of bleeding that would invalidate a fast as it is flowing blood.
and as for running packs together, it is not good to run them together that often. This is because it can cause a hormones imbalance. I too am on a 3 week on, 1 week off system and I have just ran 3 packs together to find myself with disturbed sleep and terrible emotional issues.

As for it purposefully breaking a fast. Birth control is a form of medication and should be taken as prescribed, which is 3 weeks on, 1 week off. I would however make the decision before ramadan in order for it not to be on how you are fasting as many will see it as purposefully breaking it.

Hope this helps

Candice said...

Thanks

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