Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Won't get bullied anymore!!!

My daughter was in the hospital back in May, as some of you might remember reading, and she was diagnosed with systemic juvenile arthritis. Obviously, a chronic disease, and she doesn't have a light case... She had fever daily for a month before they put her on pretty high doses of medecine containingn cortisone.


She saw the specialist (rhumatologist) for the first time today and I couldn't be there. I might have written about how my boss yelled at me last time when I had to miss 2 hours of work one afternoon to go to an appointment. I've taken up my 5 paid sick days so far this year, plus an extra half day (that was deducted from my pay that week) and when I asked for those 2 hours, he told me the situation had to fall into place, "or else". Well... I know what my priorities are and that's my daughter, but I got bullied into missing all the appointments she has had since I got yelled at. And now the specialist appointment she had today. I will end up getting all the information I need to have by having my husband tell me the gist of it and then calling myself for all the info, but I should have been there.

I feel so bad for letting him make me sit and shut up when I knew I needed to be there. I got bullied into shutting up this time, but next time I get a chance, I'm talking to him, or to the big boss, and letting them know that it won't happen again. That I WILL be missing days or hours of work here and there that they will deduct from my pay, and that I won't be told to straighten myself out "or else". I know how valuable I am there as an employee and they will have nothing else to do than shut up and let it be.

I'm an accomodating type so I don't ask for much from them, and even if I feel they are asking for a bit too much sometimes, I just do it. Asking me to take care of an extra part of the workload in the company is a bit too much, but telling me I can't miss any more days, even if the reason is my daughter -- that is more than a bit too much, it's UNACCEPTABLE and I have all the right to miss those days. So I'm done getting bullied and I'm standing up to that boss.

10 Comentários:

Amber said...

*claps*

Damn straight.

Umm Omar said...

Good for you, Candice. All employers should understand there are situations in life, especially concerning family, when they need to be more accommodating to their employees. That's in their best interest-you will feel supported by your work and that will make you happier working there. And that in turn, will make you a better employee.

Tuttie said...

Good for you girl. Years from that you won't regret that you missed work. You will regret not being their for your daughter. Alhamdulillah. You are strong enough to make that decision . May Allah swt make it easy for you and cure your daughter. Ameen.

Aynur said...

Is there any way you can get a different job? I know that's easier said than done. ;)

Sarah the Seeker said...

Sorry to hear about your daughter's condition. I had no idea it was so serious.
Yeah, you should not let them demand so much of you. It's not right. And it sounds like you are in a good position to negotiate given how valuable you are to them.

Candice said...

Thanks for the supporting comments!
Aynur, I could probably get another job, but I decided I'd at least stay until the beginning of 2010. Hopefully I get a summer raise and a Christmas bonus and make it to my 2 year mark with them in March. Not sure what I'd find though... I want to make sure it's better than here... it's a pretty good environment here and I have a lot of room to take initiative. I'd feel down going to something very structured. I like making my own routine... Anyway...

Yasemin said...

They have to accomodate you for sure, so I'm glad you aren't letting them walk all over you. I did at Dell by always working mandatory overtime, and finally quit over not being able to b with Youssef enough. Maybe if I had been strong like you, my career would be thriving. Love you and you go girl!

Candice said...

Thanks! I still haven't managed to talk to them. The big boss isn't here much and the other one is here for about half our working hours and it was too busy yesterday for me to get a chance to see him. He's here while it's busy and he leaves when it's calm... Not looking forward to talking to them, but it has to be done... So they understand my priorities.

Yasemin said...

Good luck sweetie! May Allah make it easy for you today knowing it's Jummah. I know it's got to be so scary. It will probably only last a minute, you know how those awkward meetings go LOL and then be all over. Praying for you and love you lots!

cairo, lusaka, amsterdam said...

You're right - you should definitely stand up to him next time. He should be more understanding.

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