Monday, May 25, 2009

Wudu is wet!!


I am trying to pray regularly (not 5x a day, but once a day or more for now) and wudu is an obstacle for me. I honestly don't like to do it. I hate being wet in dry circumstances. I love taking my shower or swimming, but I hate coming out and being wet. For my hands, it's the opposite, I can't stand not washing them regularly, but putting water on my face, arms, feet... NOOOOOO!!

I learned though that when I wash my hands, I always just do it with the immediate tap water, which is cold even if I turned on the hot side. And I always feel obligated to use the water from the first drip. I don't like wasting water, but it's worth it to leave the hot one running to do wudu or else it makes me not want to do it at all, meaning I skip the prayer completely. I still hate being wet, but at least if I'm wet and hot, it's tolerable!

I might not like this part of the preparation for prayer, but I like getting dressed for it. I have a couple galabeyas (not good for being worn out because of their style and weird length, but I like them for the house and prayer) and I choose one of those or a long skirt with shirt, or a short sleeved nightgown type galabeya with a sweater. Then I choose the scarf. One that matches a bit and covers well. That's when I feel prepared to do prayer.

16 Comentários:

ellen557 said...

I agree with you about the wudu stuff. When I first tried it, I used way too much water and spent ages just spluttering and sneezing :(
My face always feels dry afterwards too. Yuck.

But, you're right. The rest of the preparation is enjoyable <3

Umm Omar said...

I've heard before that the amount of water used for an entire wudu shouldn't exceed a handful. Well, I heard that that was what the prophet, peace be upon him, used to do. So, that's not much water at all. You don't need to soak yourself, and maybe this is bad advice, but if it bothers you a lot, just start by doing the minimum requirement for wudu which is your face, arms, head and feet-each one time. Finally, I'd suggest to think of it as a spiritual act; any important meeting takes preparation and a shifting of the mindset. If you think of wudu as a way to prepare your mind for a meeting with God, then maybe it will seem less unbearable.

Lisa said...

I love the way that the water feels as it hit your face. And then putting the scarf on over the damp forehead. Mashallah I always feel so close to Allah.

But, oh I hate the cold water on my feet. So I'm pretty much with you about wudu. Getting dressed is the best part. I also hate all the towels wudu creates....

Oh Candice, I wanted to tell you that I LOVE how you are taking it slowly with 1 prayer a day for now. I think it's the best way to ensure you continue without interruption. May Allah make it easy for you. Walahi I'm really proud of you!

cairo, lusaka, amsterdam said...

I know how you feel, I hate being wet too! It took me a while to get used to wudu but like Umm Omar said, I think you should use as little water as possible. In winter I have to use warm water otherwise I can't do it at all. Also before fajr prayer I wash my face as little as possible because if I splash it with water I won't get back to sleep hehe.

The Prophet (pbuh) actually wanted to make people brush their teeth as part of wudu too, but didn't in the end because he thought it would be too much.

Congrats on praying once a day, mashallah. The rest will come at your own pace :)

Candice said...

Umm Omar, I hadn't heard that! I might try to use less water and get myself less soaked. I actually already do do it only once. Well, sometimes I'll rub a few times, but I never count to 3 or anything, I just repeat to myself "Wash your face and hands to the elbow. Rub your heads and feet to the ankle." and follow that.

WhiteOrchid said...

taking things slow would help i guess :). U'll get used to it

miseducation of the cushitic girl said...

Mashallah sister, in time you will get used to it...and hey, maybe even like it.
Get the water the best temperature for you lest you get a cold. The Prophet peace be upon him did use a handful but I barely use a handful for washing my hands.
I also found it hard getting wet but after a while I've grown to like it, its refreshing...

to prevent dryness...immediately after the prayer or wudu, rub some moisturiser on.

May Allah guide you with your salah! Amin.

Umm Omar said...

After I read your post, I looked up the hadith and I couldn't believe I found it so easily, but, anyway, here it is:

"Anas said, 'The Prophet, sallahoo alayhe wa salam, used to make wudu with a *mudd* (of water) and make ghusl with a *saa* or up to five mudds." (Muslim and others)
Commentary on the hadith:
-A saa is equal to four mudds. A mudd is that amount of water which is held by the two hands cupped together.
-Being economical and not wasteful when making wudu is considered a sunnah. Some suggest that in order to help one practice this sunnah, he/she should place a mudd of water into a container and use only that water to make wudu.

Candice said...

Thanks, Om Omar, I will definitely try using that amount only. I hate wasting too.

SirAdib.com said...

MashaAllah for your effort. Many things that benefit us most in life aren't don't always seem good. As long as there's absolutely no hassle in the hereafter, the worldly hassle wouldn't matter to us.

For me, I actually love the refreshing feeling. There's a great reward if you die in the state of ablution.

Anisah said...

I really wonder how on can do wudu with only a handful of water hehe. Now wudu is an art hehe masha'allah.

I love the refreshed feeling as well.Makes the rest of the day bearable and especially wakes me up and refreshes in afternoon at work.

aisyan said...

This is a test Allah give us..we don't live forever ever on this world..

Candice said...

I put a couple handfuls of warm water in a container for wudu today and I almost enjoyed it! It felt good to know I was only using that much! And next time, I will only put ONE handful of water in there to do it. It wetted everything, but I wasn't soaking. Umm Omar really gave me some useful information!

Shariq said...

So far as "wudu" in Islam is concerned the Muslims take it at par with "baptism", considering it to be too sacred a practice. In Quran (05:06)the Almighty clearly says without mincing words, "...Allah does not wish to place you in a difficulty, but to make you clean...". If a person is already clean, who takes bath every day and keeps his body dirt-free, does not necessarily have to perform wudu for offering Salat.

Mademoiselle Siti said...

Salam sister. i would like to kindly remind you that u souldn't post pictures of urself witout proper coverage of ur aurat bcause who knows how many millions views you are getting since ur blog is so popular and it is on google search engin. mayb u sould remove the pictures. just a thought. and keep on working on ur wudu and prayer!!! My prayers are wit u!

Candice said...

It's not me in the pictures, sorry for the confusion! I wish I had a link to where this comes from... I will remove it when I have the chance to not cause confusion.

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